Children are so overrated.
There is an unspoken taboo in our society where if you admit that
having kids wasn’t quite what you thought it would be and that if you could do
it all over again that you would have chosen NOT to have kids, that you are a
monster, an evil, despicable monster.
The truth is a large percentage of parents HATE being parents (DIBS on
how many parents are secretly banging their heads on their monitors, right now).
They will never say it out loud and they can’t even admit that to themselves
because “only an selfish, evil demon” would come to that conclusion, they
think.
For every precious moment where the little brat does something
special, there are 1,000 moments where they drive you crazy.
They literally tear your life upside down. Marriage, your social life,
the list goes on and on and on.
Oh yeah, the worst part is yet to come – the teenage years.
Oh yeah, the worst part is yet to come – the teenage years.
The reason people have children is because of this unwritten societal
norm where the standard is to get married and immediately begin to produce
offspring like a vending machine on a cocaine trip; because “that’s the thing
to do”.
I think most people end up having kids because 1) They’re too stupid
to know how to use birth control properly 2) There is a severe shortage of
electricity in the night and there is nothing for a couple to do except maybe ‘Do
it’ and/or 3) They have an idealistic, completely unrealistic vision of what
parenthood entails.
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People imagine dressing their daughter in pretty clothes, or playing
catch with their son. They don’t think about being awoken at 2 a.m. by a sick,
screaming kid who just threw up all over the bed, and who doesn’t give a fuck
that you have to get up for work in four hours. They don’t think about the
mortgage company threatening to foreclose, or the electricity being shut off,
because the husband can’t pay all the bills on one income.
More people should think about these things, and fewer people should
be having children. Parenthood should be left to those few couples who are
willing to take the good with the bad along with a hefty bank balance that
ensures the poor baby does not have to end up facing the ultimate humiliation
of the father looking dead into his/her eyes sixteen years from the day they
were born and being told: “I wish I had wasted you in the bathroom, you, you
sick fuck!!”.
Seriously, the way
I see it people just do not understand the working and the finer nuances of
being a family in a society that has continuously been flipping you the bird
since the day you are born. Most of the people I know have married – not because
they were ready to – but because they could not handle the emotional distress
of having to give the neighbor’s a detailed account as to why their upset dad
climbed up the chimney wearing only a diaper and screaming “Dude, get
married!!! NOW!!” I know a lot of guys
who tie the knot precisely because they are manipulative emotionally and who
just don’t have the kind of balls required to stand up and give a glowing
account of why it would be so terrible to get married at that time and how much
the poor ‘perfect match’ is going to suffer because of being forced into a
marriage. I mean, the world is already over-populated with every imaginable
abomination Satan ever imagined. So, it’s not like the human race is threatened
to extinction and only your marriage and spawn can save it.
There is a problem
with the society we live in. Yes, by ‘we’; I meant all of us. The Indian
society is a unique and exquisite example of something so balls-shiveringly
complex that it has been flipping the bird at anyone so minutely unfortunate to
being a part of it. Not to poke holes into the very society that is fully
responsible for churning out another maniac cynic (that would be me, D’oh…..)
but in a way you look at it, the whole setup looks diabolical. On one hand, is
the temptation to sin to such an extent that the Devil himself would wish for a
vacation and on the other hand is the perverted need to keep up a charming face
that the society can at least bear with.
By the time you
reach your late 20’s or 30’s or whenever it is that you wish to marry (Why
would you want to do that?) you have been completely mind fucked by the duality
of existence and ass wiping (If you’re working in a corporate), that marriage
and a life time permit to ‘hot’ sex looks like something that you just need to
bite into. Never mind that the guy has a huge loan on the loan he took to buy a
car because his huge house taken on a loan felt like the Eden Garden Cricket
ground. Holy shit, I never thought I’d live to write a sentence like that, but
anyway; you get the idea?
Marriage and kids
are not a poor man’s game. Buying stuff and ensuring to provide 2 square meals
a day while your credit reliability slowly sinks deeper into a black hole; is
not love. You are just providing for your family, if you cannot even do that
comfortably; you have no business of even marrying in the first place. And, in
an economy like India, that is saying a lot. So, coming back to the point of
kids – there is a rule that you need to know – if you have spent half of your working
years desperately trying to make ends meet while making it look like you are
comfortably numb in the society, you know for sure that all those jealous
people out there are already rubbing their hands and wetting themselves in
anticipation of the colossal fuck-up that you are going to make of your life –
all for the simple reason that you let somebody else decide when you would need
a warm bed. And let’s all face it. Once the first step is done, the rest of the
way is a clusterfuck of carnal needs and 2 minutes of pleasure, because you
know; Oh Come on! – Which is gonna last for at least the next 25 years of your life?
Go ahead; take a moment to let that sink in while I wait for you….
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And all through
those 25 years you are going to crib and curse and swear (and if you are lucky;
choke everyone responsible) about how no one told you this was so tough. Oh and
while you live the rest of your life a walking, farting, swearing imbecile, the
kid that you decided to go in for is freaking out at the utter insanity of
life, slowly turning into everything you don’t want him/her to be. Then one
fine day, those kids will have kids of their own who will in turn flip a couple
of more birds at everything around them. Yep, it’s a vicious cycle….
Damn!! And you
thought programming that pesky check so your client can go and whack off in sheer
satisfaction was tough?